Winning is really about how you define it and your perspective on it. You can say you won if you get through a year of work without being sacked. Or you can say you have failed because you did not get a pay rise in that year. To me, it is about making the small wins count.
Winning also often comes from losing. It is the lessons and wisdom gained from losses that leads to wins later. Most famous athletes, entrepreneurs and so on have lost and failed at some point in their careers. It is this learning which has made them successful eventually.
To lose is truly to win. Steve Jobs was FIRED from the company he founded! When he returned to Apple over 10 years later, he built it into the most profitable company on the planet. J K Rowling endured depression, physical and mental abuse, poverty and humiliation. Today, we know her as one of the most successful authors to ever live.
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Therefore, winning and losing are the natural cycle in life. It is unrealistic to expect that we will win every time, in every situation with everyone. These unrealistic high expectations lead to stress, depression and performance anxiety.
Everyone can win. Everyone can also lose. It’s through our experiences that we grow and experience success, which only we can truly define for ourselves.
Being dedicated to a pursuit, trying ones best and travelling the journey purposefully, can be more meaningful and fulfilling for some then winning public accolade and medals. Hence the meaning of ‘winning’ if unique to everyone.
As long as you are committed to your purpose both mentally and emotionally, you are better able to invest yourself and immerse your mind to succeed in whatever you choose to do!
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If you believe you have failed, or are feeling unfulfilled in life, we can help you, using coaching as a medium, to explore realistic aims, acknowledge small wins and gain a sense of achievement and success in your life.
Hansa Pankhania is an acclaimed author and renowned coach and speaker on wellbeing, stress prevention and resilience. In this exclusive column, she will be presenting cost-free, simple, natural coping tips that can be integrated in a busy routine at home and at work to sustain a stress-free, joyful and successful life.